Navigating Bisexual Visibility

As I sit down to write this on Bisexuality Visibility Day, I’m reflecting on the unique complexities that come with being not-so-visibly bisexual. Just like everyone else, various aspects of my identity intersect and one of the most significant intersections for me is being bi while in a relationship that passes as heterosexual.

Being in a straight-passing relationship affords me the privilege of avoiding some of the biases and discrimination that more visibly queer individuals face. It's like having an invisibility cloak, but instead of sneaking into Hogwarts, you're sneaking past prejudice.

However, this invisibility comes at a cost. I find myself yearning to be part of the queer community while simultaneously benefiting from perceived heterosexual privilege. It's a balancing act that can lead to feelings of alienation from both worlds, leaving me caught in what's called a "double closet”.

Bi-erasure, however, isn't limited to this. Many bisexual individuals face challenges in having their sexuality recognized as valid. There's a persistent misconception that bisexuality is just a phase or that we "switch" between being gay and straight. This erasure can come from both within and outside the LGBTQIA+ community.

Whether you're queer, bisexual, an ally, or just learning, it's crucial to recognize that queerness isn't always visible or easily categorized. Everyone has the right to exist and be accepted without having their identity questioned. After all, visibility isn't just about being seen—it's about being understood.

• An Interweaver's voice from the community.